The Magic Key

  • Do not walk alone, especially at night. But if you do, keep your keys between your fingers so you can stab someone in the eye and then hook their eyeballs.
  • Don’t leave your drink unattended in a bar. Someone might put a drug in it and then assault you. One of my research participants, an eleven-year-old girl, told me that she knew when she was older, she would have to watch her drink if she goes out when she is older. She is eleven, a drink for her is a soda, but she worries that someday in the future, she cannot leave her to drink unattended so she won’t be attacked.
  • Don’t wear anything too revealing, or you will be “asking for it” plus, if you show your midriff or too much leg, it will distract the boys from their studies. Another one of my participants told me she was afraid of going to college because she heard about some college men chanting, “yes means yes. No means yes.” She was thirteen.
  • Also, don’t wear clothes that cover up too much if you work in the service industry and want tips. In my 20’s I was a bartender. The dress code was for the women to wear skirts. I wore a long skirt because that is what I was comfortable in. My boss told me I would get better tips if I wore shorter skirts. He was old enough to be my father.

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Erin Lynn Nau, LCSW

Erin Lynn Nau, LCSW

Feminist. Social Worker. Researcher. I am a PhD candidate whose research focuses on self-worth and early adolescent girls. www.erinlnau.com